Anyways, babe was pretty much taking days trying to figure out his situation with his car. That thing keeps breaking down i swear. Dumb bimmer. Just kidding...but really. Poor guy's been dumping hella money on the thing. WHAT ABOUT ME. Sheesh...okay i'm really kidding about that one. And he tells me i'm running him dry on money. Pffttttt.
I felt pretty lazy after i realized it'd take him a while to be done, i didn't really want to do anything productive anymore like i originally planned. So, i decided to just lay in bed and watch Blue Valentine. I was reading the reviews for that movie and people said that this movie portrays the truth about life, family, and love so well. I mean, not everyone's life is like this but it does definitely show the hardships and struggles that some people do actually have to go through to keep their love going. So basically it was mostly about the hardships of love.
The movie got me thinking. I don't really want to spoil too much of the movie, because if you're into these kinds of sappy love dramas it's definitely something you should consider watching. Especially because Ryan Gosling from the Notebook stars in it.
So, it has me thinking about the "everlasting love" that couples vow to give each other when they're standing up at the alter or wherever giving each other the promise of their life time for better or for worse and all that. Everlasting love...does it last? Does love last? I mean, i could be wrong. I'm only 18, i haven't been through too much. I haven't been married. This is just what i think, what i assume from observing the things i hear, read, and watch. Marriages failing, people falling out of love, love vanishing, fading, failing.
Does the flame stay lit forever? Or does it eventually dim out slowly...
The flame of a candle compared to the love between two people or for a particular person. The spark..."the spark" that ignites the flame of potential or possible love. Without "the spark", there's no way that there could really be true chemistry between two. I heard from somewhere, probably from another movie, that "the spark" is just some fairy tale fantasy that girls make up in their mind. They made it up so they can have something to find, to let them know if the choice they're making is going to work out for them...i heard that somewhere, something like that. But i mean, it's this feeling we get when we're with someone we like. It's like butterflies, good chills, great vibes, good company, etc. Stuff like that, i guess that's what "the spark" actually is.
The flame i guess would be equivalent to the "burning passionate love" between two people. Such a strong connection, such great chemistry, such joy and laughter shared amongst the two. This is when the love is strong and powerful, where you'd think that nothing can ever bring you down. Like an inferno. So hot, so strong, so powerful. I guess that's why they call it burning love.
Overtime it just becomes the same routine, i guess. You two have just been through the same thing so much already. All the "i love you, baby" that's said constantly may soon become less frequent, the mini surprises, the loving gestures, the things you love that they do may just fade. The flame is dimming down, the spark is losing it's spark. Maybe you got bored, maybe you got tired of the same old thing. One person stops trying, the other stops caring making the other one not care either which results to the other not really trying either. It's like a game to see who will break first...or will is going to actually try to spark a match and make the candle light up again.
What happened? That's the crazy part. The saddest thing is when such great love, fades away. Not because someone did something, but because their love simply just faded away. It dimmed down, it's not as strong, not as powerful anymore. What happened? Nothing...nothing at all, and that's the saddest thing.
I don't know. I'm not saying this happens to everyone. It happens though, to the best of us. It really does make me think though. Does it last? Does it really last, in some lucky cases they do. But in others, married couples just stick it through till the end just because it either feels right or it's family they're worried about.
In the movie, the guy was trying one last time to make it work and he said, "do you want frankie to grow up in a broken family?" and she responding saying that the family was already broken. Things like that are always tough. Some people try to stick it through for the kids, but the kids can always tell if something isn't right. In the end, the daughter runs after him telling him to stay. That broke me up.
The guy sang this song to her when he was trying to get to know her, sang it to her while playing the uke i think and she danced to it while he sang. I found it ironic because he's singing this song "You Always Hurt the One You Love", and he fell for her when he first laid eyes on her. His love for her actually was there the whole time, till the end. It was her that lost it. She fell for him too, she really did. Unfortunately, she just didn't want it anymore. He sang this to her when they were younger, when he was slowly falling for her and she hurt him. No explanation, no chance to revive it.
You should really watch this movie, it say a lot in some sense. Sorry, i kind of ruined the ending. Watch it anyways if you want and get the chance to.
I really liked this song in the movie. It was cute.
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p.s. My boyfriend said the sweetest thing to me today, and i absolutely love and adore him even more for that.
