The phrase is: “Forgive and forget”, the rebuttal for that
is: “You can forgive, but you can never forget.”
Depending on the extremities of one’s wrong doings, the
action to be taken by the victim (receiver of the action) varies. They can
choose to forgive the person, or hate them forever. If they choose to forgive,
does that entitle them to drop the whole situation as though it hasn’t
happened?
In some cases, to “forgive and forget” comes easily because
the action done was minor. However, one can never really just forget about
major actions – never entirely at least. As much as you’d like to push
something out of your head, and not hold someone against that one situation for
the rest of your life it will always pop up again when a time comes. I’m not saying
that when you’re with that person their shady act will linger in your mind the
whole entire time, but in a sense that if something was to come up to remind
you of that time then you will surely think of it again. You can never just forget.
The most that can be done is that you’ll drop it. You’ll
drop being upset about it, and you wont hold them against it for the rest of
the time that you know them. That’s what forgiveness
is, isn’t it? Let’s see the connotation for “forgiveness”:
forgive |fərˈgiv|verb ( past -gave ; past part. -given ) [ trans. ]stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake : I don't think I'll ever forgive David for the way he treated her. See note at absolve .• (usu. be forgiven) stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for (an offense, flaw, or mistake) : they are not going to pat my head and say all is forgiven | [ intrans. ] he was not a man who found it easy to forgive and forget.
Sometimes you wonder how someone can forgive a person after
they have done so much wrong. It’s all mind over matter really. Look at the
situation in whole, and then look at the sincerity of their apology. At that
point, you make a decision as to if you want to take their word for it, or just
look the other way.
Let’s take love as an example (since I happen to think I’m
an expert at it, just kidding). Why does the girl take back the guy that broke
her heart? The guy that told her, he doesn’t love her anymore, doesn’t want to
be in a relationship, or whatever shit he said. Here’s a star couple to take a
look at: Rihanna and Chris Brown. Everyone who cares is wondering, “Why in the
damn world is she back with him?!” We all know the story, he beat the shit out
of her a couple years ago…and now all is forgiven and there are rumors as of
recently that they may be getting engaged. What the fuck, right? That’s
something about love though it knows no boundaries. It’s strong enough to
forgive the ugliest of deeds. For love, you can let go and look past things.
It’s an interesting concept. But everyone has their own ways of handling
things. Most people wouldn’t have forgiven Chris Brown if they were Rihanna,
and most people would be deemed crazy enough to do so.
It’s not only love with a significant other, but it’s love
towards a friend or family member. Generally, in my opinion at least, if a
person is or was important to you enough, when they come back with a sincere
apology it’s hard to just turn the other cheek. I guess ultimately, it all
depends on how you look at the situation, and how you want to handle it. Like I
said previously, everyone deals with problems differently. A lot of people are
stubborn, and a lot are more forgiving.
In the end, perhaps you’d be less bitter if you had one less
person to hate. Imo.
What type of person do you see yourself to be when it comes
to forgiveness?
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